You’ve sent me a perfectly charming introductory email message with all the pertinent details required for a first date. I’ve confirmed I’m available and would welcome seeing you. We are all set to meet for the first time….. Exciting! Yes it is, but there are most likely some other emotions in the mix too. Don’t stress that you’re the exception, it’s perfectly normal and to be expected.
Truth be told, I have a heightened awareness when meeting someone for the first time too. Your respectfulness, both via email and in person, goes far in helping me to quickly relax. For me, feeling safe with you leads to attraction and arousal.
Please don’t feel insecure about your looks or sexual prowess; I provide a no-judgement experience. We have the most enjoyable time together when mentally we are able to let go and be in the moment, whether we are out sharing a meal or laying naked skin to skin.
Spending time together first sipping a drink at a bar or deciding what we will order from a tantalizing menu, is great foreplay. We get to warm up to each other in public, share stories and flirt with delicious anticipation. I’m a mature woman, have enjoyed some wonderful life experiences, and I guarantee you that within the first 30 minutes of meeting, we will find out that we have a few things in common. Some other ideas for first dates: museums; live music, especially jazz; broadway theater/off-broadway plays.
It might also happen that with the nervousness and heightened anticipation, our first date doesn’t go quite as you had envisioned. Don’t worry! Even though, as an experienced mature companion, I excel at being able to get you “out of your head”, we are merely human beings and sometimes the unpredictable occurs and nerves get the better of you. The good news….our time together will only get better from here on.
It’s often said that our most erogenous zone is our brain. Come to me with an open and relaxed mind and I’m confident our time together will prove to be the start of a meaningful friendship.
Warm hugs,
Carolyn